Everything that’s happening to
us is happening through us. When
somebody says or does something that
causes you to react, you want to make
it about what they did and not about
the trigger within you or what you’re
telling yourself unconsciously.
KK: Is that because we don’t want to
deal with our own shadow?
IV: Most people don’t even know
they have a shadow. They’re not even
thinking at the higher level. I think
it’s because we have a very limited
emotional vocabulary. We have the
thought, and it generates the feeling.
Or we have a feeling, and it generates
a thought, and it’s good/bad, right/
wrong, fair/unfair, or happy/sad. If you
focus on what you’re thinking for 20
minutes, you would be horrified at the
minutia that passes through your brain.
We have 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts a
day, and we’re probably conscious of
KK: Why are so many of us resistant to
shifting our perspective?
IV: Because it’s frightening. We fear
the unknown. We’ll hold on to what’s
familiar even if it’s strangling us.
KK: Sometimes just recognizing that
helps you get free from it.
IV: After this past presidential election,
people were depressed, taking time
off work, and weeping in the streets.
I couldn’t understand why hundreds
of thousands of people were so
intimidated by one person. Then other
people were angry with those who were
upset. Okay, I thought, we’ve got to get
That’s really when I could look at the
dominant negative thought patterns
that were coming to the surface. Our
greatest fears had come upon us. I
could see the occupant of the White
House as an absolutely accurate
demonstration of who we are, of what
we think, of how we behave.
I looked at him and I thought to
myself, I’ve done that! I’ve put other
people down. I’ve judged other people
based on my own limited perspective.
I’ve said things and then when I get
called on them, I’ve backpedaled and
sidestepped. I’ve attempted to get
people on my side against somebody
else. I’ve made people promise to
be loyal to me. I’ve done all of the
things that I’m looking at. That’s why I
So I realized that we have to get over
looking at anything that’s happening on
the outside and instead start looking
at what’s happening on the inside,
because that’s what’s manifesting.
KK: When you say, “Get over it,” you’re
not being dismissive. You’re talking
about shifting the negative thought
IV: That’s right. I’m teaching how
to get over it using two age-old,
time-honored principles: prayer
and affirmation. Affirmative prayers
are prayers of petition stated in an
affirmative way because there’s a level
of confession in those prayers. They
start out with the thought that, This
is what I feel, or This is where I’m
stuck, and then you use affirmations
to move in to a higher level of divine
mind where you are able to eliminate
it. Sometimes when people pray, they
beseech and beg and skirt the issue.
But with Thought Therapy Prayer,
you lay it out.
KK: The book outlines five such tools
for bypassing the ego. With the second
tool, thought therapy affirmations, you
say we have to use some emotional
muscle, saying the affirmation like we
really mean it. Why is that emotional
oomph so important?
IV: A belief is a thought fueled by
emotion. When we think a thought
over and over again, it eventually gets
attached to an emotional image. That
is what keeps it stuck in our being.
And so it’s important that when we
speak an affirmation we use emotion
so it really sticks. You have to trick