I realized the life
I’d been living
here on earth
the cord, it ends the relationship,
but it’s important to understand why
there’s a negative cord to that person
and what the payoff is for having this
relationship. If you don’t do that, the
cord usually reappears. Also, it’s not
a clean cut if you feel a bit righteous
when you do it; if you feel that they
are the “bad” person, and you are the
“good” person, chances are the cord
will reassert itself. If you can cut it
without anger or resentment, it will
In addition, a cord that reattaches
can also represent an unresolved issue
from the past. In this case, you may
need to look at your own culpability
and take steps to resolve those deeper
challenges. Negative cords can be a
reflection of something in ourselves
that we are not owning, not accepting,
or that we haven’t healed.
KK: Let’s talk about synchronicity,
which you’ve tied to the unity you
spoke about earlier. What importance
does synchronicity hold?
DL: One of the things I discovered
during my near-death experience
was that the place we call heaven is
not up in the sky. It’s a dimension
where we are one with all things.
It is a place of universal love that
coexists with the dimension we live
in here on earth. You can tell when
you’re getting close to the dimension
we call heaven because you start
experiencing more synchronicity. If
you need something and it magically
appears, or you think about somebody
and they suddenly get in touch with
you, these are affirmations that you
are getting closer to the frequency of
heaven, the realm of Spirit. The more
synchronicity you experience, the
closer you’re getting. When I was on
the other side, there was no separation
between intent and manifestation. The
instant I had a thought, it manifested.
So when the distance between intent
and manifestation is short, that’s the
Universe winking at you.
KK: Is there a difference between
coincidence and synchronicity?
DL: Coincidences are just a kind of
synchronicity. In Energy Strands, I
told a story about when my husband,
my daughter, and I were driving from
Washington state to California for a
wedding, and we got lost in Oregon. I
was driving and I kept wanting to stop
to ask for directions, and my husband
(who was in charge of directions) kept
saying, “No, I can figure it out.” This
was long before GPS.
Finally, in the middle of nowhere,
I said, “That’s it. The next house we
come to, I am going to stop and ask
for directions.” There was a house in
the distance with a very long driveway,
so I just turned onto the driveway. I
jumped out of the car, ran up the steps,
and knocked on the door. Amazingly,
my stepsister—who I’d completely lost
track of—opened the door.
KK: No way!
DL: I hadn’t seen her for years. I didn’t
even know where in the world she
lived. We all ended up going out for
dinner that night and we reconnected.
Some people might say that was a
coincidence, but to me, that was a
synchronicity—it was much deeper
than just a coincidence. It was as
though we had cords connecting us
that drew me to her. It was not an
accident that the one house we just
happened to stop at was hers.
KK: It’s easy to see what that
synchronicity was all about, but what
about those that aren’t as obvious? You
see a synchronicity, but you’re not sure
what the message is?
DL: Whenever I’m not sure what
something means, I’ll ask myself, Well,
Denise, if you did know what it meant,
what would it be? And that simple
question makes it really easy. You just
have to trust whatever comes, even if it
doesn’t make sense.
KK: After all, if it made sense, we
wouldn’t need to get the answer
synchronistically. We’re not after our
left brain’s help here.
DL: Right, we’re seeking our intuitive
sense, which is not always easy to get
to. That’s why I love that question. It
just gets right around my brain.
KK: Is synchronicity connected with
DL: To me, déjà vu is not so much
in the realm of synchronicity. That
feeling of I’ve been here before can
indicate someplace that you’ve been
in a past life or it can be something
you’ve dreamed about and forgotten.
This lost dream may even have been
precognitive, showing you a glimpse
of some future event, which is not
uncommon. When the event later
happens, it seems oddly familiar.
KK: Is it a sign of a cord?
DL: Absolutely! It’s activating a cord to
the past, a cord to the future, or a cord
to Spirit. It can be showing you that
we’re connected to the future as well as
to the past.