Our fearful ego has countless ways of convincing us to
worry about a future that is uncertain. It would have us
worry about not getting what we want as well as about
getting what we don’t want. When the ego is in charge,
there’s always something to worry about.
Depending on our age, the ego will have us worry about
getting pregnant (or not getting pregnant), then about our
children, and finally about our grandchildren. We should
worry about not having enough to eat—or that what we do
eat will give us some fatal disease or condition. We should
worry about dying (because the ego tells us that when our
bodies die, that is the end of life).
Our egos are also experts at fear, guilt, and anxiety. They
tell us it is wise to fear all the things that can go wrong in
life. What if I lose my job? What if my child gets sick or dies?
What if my spouse leaves me? Maybe someone will drop a
nuclear bomb on us, the ego says. We might be killed by a
tornado or a tsunami, it tells us. What if a hurricane or an
earthquake destroys our home, it asks. The ego frequently
persuades us not to trust other people because sooner or
later someone is going to take advantage of us.
The ego mind believes that getting even or attacking
another person is good for you and that judging others
will make you feel better. If someone hurts you, the ego
thinks it makes sense to hurt them back. Depending
on your political affiliation, it would have you attacking
particular political leaders and worrying about who will
be in power next.
Our egos do not believe in God and they do not
believe in forgiveness. They certainly do not believe in
unconditional love or peace of mind. The fearful ego also
doesn’t believe in healing, either physical or emotional.
If we aren’t getting along with our spouse, it tells us we
should get a divorce because things will never get better.
Our egos want us to believe in scarcity so we will always
be afraid of not having enough. The ego tells us that if
we just have enough money we will be happy, but the
definition of enough keeps changing. For example, it says
if we have a certain amount of money in the bank we will
be happy, but when we have that amount, we still are not
happy. Then we think that maybe five times that amount
will be enough to finally make us happy.
Frankly, seeing the world through the ego is exhausting.
When we instead choose to place our future in the hands
of God, we find relief from all worry or concern about
what will happen. We feel safe in an often unsafe world.
God does not see the physical world that we are all so
worried about, so when we are aware of our true oneness
with God, focusing on that instead of on our egos, we are
not concerned with the physical world and its various
When we are experiencing our oneness with our Creator,
we find ourselves in relationships in which we, others, and
God become joined with each other. Putting our future
in the hands of God is the end of all worry. When we
make that empowering choice, we go from exhausted to
exhilarated. What choice will you make?
Examining how our attitudes determine our experiences
ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING
GERALD JAMPOLSKY, M.D., AND
DIANE CIRINCIONE-JAMPOLSKY, PH.D.,
ARE THE FOUNDERS OF ATTITUDINAL
HEALING INTERNATIONAL. TOGETHER AND
SEPARATELY, THEY’VE AUTHORED 16 BOOKS.
From Exhausted to Exhilarated
GOD DOES NOT SEE
THE PHYSICAL WORLD
THAT WE ARE ALL SO
WORRIED ABOUT …