Uncertainty struck big time when the magnificent life I had created was turned upside down with an email that read in part: “While we’ve enjoyed having you as a tenant for the past eight years, we have decided to sell.”
Instantly my stomach tightened and my body started
to shake. This was the third time in 20 years that I found
myself on the receiving end of a move that was not my
choice. The first two experiences worked out well, but
this time it wasn’t just about finding a new place to live.
It was going to take a magical miracle, a nontraditional
solution, to find a new place that would not only be a
match for my physical and emotional requirements but
would also fit my budget. Daunting and disheartening
to say the least. That’s why I was ripe and ready for Tama
Kieves’ insightful teaching.
Facing Fears of the Unknown
Kieves is an authority on uncertainty. She threw her
own life into the great unknown when she chose to leave
a soul-crushing law practice with a six-figure income
to become a writer. “I felt so constrained and so tied up
and burdened,” she recalls. “I felt like there were tiny
bits of glass in my body and that if I moved I would feel
them stabbing me because I was living an inauthentic
life. What I wanted was to be so free, so liberated, so
whole that I could move with that inner spirit, move
To do that, she had to fire her inner judge. “When I
heard a different voice—a very loving voice—my body
relaxed,” she says. “That’s the voice I wanted to listen
to. That’s how I wanted to live my life,” said Kieves. The
result was her first book, This Time I Dance (Awakening
Artistry Press, 2002).
Yet success did not come overnight. She spent 12
Calling on Courage
years writing that first book—often questioning her
sanity, wondering at every turn if she was doing the
right thing. “I was waiting tables and trying to launch
a coaching career and conducting workshops in my
apartment,” she remembers.
What the experience taught her, and what she teaches
others today, is that we all have a choice of what inner
voice to listen to—the voice of fear or the voice of love.
“Will you listen to the voice that’s diminishing you and
being ‘realistic,’ which can be just another term for being
negative? Or will you listen to the voice of love, vision,
desire, and truth?” she asks. “I don’t want to be realistic if
it means being limited like everyone else. I want to create
a new reality. It takes courage in a society that typically
celebrates results to follow and trust your inner voice
more than the external voices of the world, to trust what
your heart, your soul, and your gut are telling you.”
Throughout the years, Kieves has grown to trust
the voice of love to the point that she says, “I will go
anywhere that voice takes me. I’ve learned it’s stupid not
to listen to that voice, even in times of desperation.”
In the introduction to her new book, Thriving Through
Uncertainty (TarcherPerigee, 2018), Kieves invites us as
willing participants to step into the life we didn’t plan,
choosing to make uncertainty our “new best friend” so
we can discover our certainty.
STEP INTO THE LIFE YOU DIDN’T PLAN, AND
watch the magic happen.
BY CHERYL RUSSELL
HAVING COURAGE IS ABOUT
FOLLOWING YOUR HEART,
EVEN IN A CULTURE THAT
IDOLIZES THE BRAIN.