Live Your Happy: Get Out of Your Own Way and Find the Love Within
By Maria Felipe
New World Library, 2017, $14.95
Maria Felipe knew the thrill of external validation. An actress and model,
she landed a high-profile job interviewing World Wrestling Federation
competitors on live TV. But inside, she felt empty and miserable. “When I
was in my 20s, I longed to be loved—loved by everyone, loved by the whole
world,” she writes. “What I didn’t know was that I was really searching for
the love of God, and that I already had that love within me.”
In the mid-1990s, Felipe suffered from depression and found comfort in
Marianne Williamson’s best-seller A Return to Love, prompting Felipe to
attend an introductory class in A Course in Miracles. “I wasn’t quite prepared for
what the teacher said,” Felipe writes. “We are wholly responsible for our experiences; we are
not victims of anyone or anything; only love is real and all else is an illusion.”
A Course in Miracles, Felipe says, provides the tools to break down internal barriers
to love and become free from the tricks of the ego. In Live Your Happy, she explains that
negative emotions such as guilt and fear stem from one thing: separation from God.
Through radical forgiveness, we can end suffering and find peace. Felipe, a Unity minister
in Burbank, California, shares insightful examples, including some from her own life.
She shows readers they are not stuck, they are fearless—and ready to feel worthy, release
illusions, and live their happy.
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HAPPINESS IS AN INSIDE JOB
Finding Your Story of Love
in the Sorrow of Loss
By Patrick O’Malley, Ph.D.
(with Tim Madigan)
Sounds True, 2017, $16.95
In the 1960s, psychiatrist Elisabeth
Kübler-Ross introduced a five-stage model for grief:
denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.
However, not all bereaved individuals experience all
the stages, and not in that particular order.
In 1981, psychologist Patrick O’Malley and his
wife lost their 8-month-old son, Ryan. O’Malley
tried to “work” through his grief and felt like a
failure for not reaching emotional resolution.
Through his own and his clients’ experiences,
O’Malley came to believe that staging grief can lead
to self-doubt and shame.
What did comfort clients, he discovered, was
telling stories about their departed loved ones,
“continuing bonds” with them rather than grappling
for an emotional finish line. “The bereaved are thus
encouraged to redefine, not end, their relationship
with the deceased,” O’Malley writes. He provides
advice for seeking help, understanding the vocabulary
of grief, and forming a grief support group.
The Empath’s Survival
Guide: Life Strategies
for Sensitive People
By Judith Orloff, M.D.
Sounds True, 2017, $22.95
People admire empathy, the ability
to share others’ sorrows and
triumphs. However, highly sensitive empaths often
suffer from “emotional sponge syndrome,” soaking
up—and becoming overwhelmed by—the stresses
and joys of the world. Empaths “are so sensitive
that it’s like holding something in a hand that has
50 fingers instead of five,” psychiatrist Judith Orloff
writes. “We are truly super responders.”
An empath herself, Orloff identifies numerous
areas where empaths may need to establish
boundaries in intimate relationships, around
narcissists and other energy vampires, and at
work. She suggests healthy ways to break the cycle
of numbing emotions with food, alcohol, and
other addictive behaviors. She shares affirmations,
meditations, and other techniques for revitalization
and self-protection, along with tips for tuning in to
empaths’ natural intuition. “Empaths are not ‘overly
sensitive,’” Orloff explains. “They have a gift but must
learn to manage their sensitivities.”